Each day as I move across the surface of the earth, I see married people. On my social media platform especially Facebook, I see young ones, some I know others I don’t, get married.
congratulations fill the air bursting my screen guard, I even join in congratulating them but one question that springs up in mind is
Why did they get married?
I’m not an enemy of progress oh 💆 I like the fact that they are married, it’s a good thing but just why? Nowadays so many girls get married because they are tired of being single and they think marriage will solve their problem.
As enlightened as our world is people still get married because they want to bear the name married woman. When you call them married woman their head opens up and a garden of flower springs up, they are so happy and they go ” yes oh ! God bless my hubby “. OK oh, sister well done.
Some men marry because they need someone to Cook and clean, bros you need a house help, not a wife. Some marry because it’s a competition among their circle, first to get married. Some because it’s genuine but how can I tell, am I them? no! So let me mind my business abeg.
I was at the corridor teaching a child when I heard shouts coming from the next compound. The tone was loud and filled with frustration and anger. It was so loud that everyone could hear and you could easily detect that the woman was fed up.
” Why am I even married to you, what have you done for me since you married me. I’m the only one that takes care of myself in this house, is it not better to stay in my mother’s house than be married to you “
Those words stroked me so hard and I asked again, why are you married?
Divorce is a leading case in the world, the rate at which people buy asoebi and go for marriages every Saturday is the same rate at which people divorce every day.
When I’m tired of this marriage thing. God, please give me a husband that has sense and fears you oh because I can’t be like all these women 🙏
Now back to my topic
why did you get married
When I see all these issues in marriages, I am totally confused and 50% of these problems are caused by the men. Here in Africa some men still have this ignorant mentality that a woman is supposed to stay at home, to be submissive and take care of the kids and do the domestic chores
Consider this first before marriage
Before marriage, a woman must know the kind of man she would get married to. Most people are married just because of the party. They just want the ceremony, the white gown, it’s just a moment in time after that then comes the real deal.
Responsibility: If you are not responsible for yourself as a man or a woman you don’t have a business with being responsible for someone else. You have to be financially independent, emotionally, mentally. Marriage is work oh, it’s not for babies, you have to grow up and take responsibility for yourself before you can be able to take responsibilities for others
Purpose: If you have not found God’s purpose for your life, please go and discover your life before you get caught in the web of marriage that you can’t come out from. Some discover themselves in relationships and it ends up being a disaster because their eyes are now open and they don’t see the kind of man they want in their partner how do you then cope, well I was like that. Discover who you are and know who you are.
Happiness: If you are not satisfied with yourself or happy with life please don’t get married cause you can’t tie your happiness to another person. Marriage is not supposed to make you happy, you should be happy with yourself then when you come together you add to your happiness. Not that you are a sadist and you want to marry a happy man so that he can make you happy, please go and look for your joy.
Readiness: Most important of all, marry when you are ready. Don’t let anyone pressure you into marriage. I’m just chilling with my God while I sip coffee and write and do what he wants me to do. If the thing never reaches nor rush be ready first.
As for me and marriage, let it wait. The right kind of man will come. This life I can’t kill myself oh. You know that song abi 💃💃💃
Marriage nor be competition, if you run into it as e dey hot, the fire goes burn you come outside. Develop yourself and know the kind of person that fits you and above all be the kind of person you want.
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